I saw an interesting comment on a website - but am sorry that I don't remember the link. :(
(If I find the exact article I will edit this post)
Basically it was an article where Dr. Karyl McBride was quoting one of her clients regarding the reality of having narcissistic parents. The client said that she finally figured it out that her parents' narcissism was akin to them being colorblind and her struggling to get them to see the 'rainbow' in her. It made perfect sense!
You cannot will a 'colorblind' person to see the difference between shades of gray, brown, navy blue, black OR between white, light pink, off-white, etc. All the colors are clearly the same to them. Whereas for a healthy person - my inference meaning a non-narcissistic individual - he/she can not only see the difference but can also appreciate the beauty of those differences.
If you are continually exposed to someone trying to mute your 'colors' and insisting you see the world through a limited scope of the color spectrum they see, it can be very damaging to your psyche in the long run. You will miss out on the beauty and no longer apprecate the differences/uniqueness everyone can bring to a relationship. So to anyone still being clouded by the FOG (fear/obligation/guilt) of a narc - find your way out so you can finally let others see the rainbow inside of you!! :)
Great comparison. I am loving the full spectrum outside of my FOO's black-or-white world.
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Wow, that's a great analogy, how appropriate.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this excellent post. PWC posted a link to here and I really like this. I love the picture too.
ReplyDeleteYes - it is amazing to finally see things in life through the 'colors' they really exude! . . . especially the muted darkness of narcs. ;)
ReplyDeleteThanks PWC for linking one of your posts to here - much appreciated! <3
Lovely. Amazing. Great analogy!
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